Overnights begin tomorrow
We had the counselor appointment. Congratulations for X’s counselor for not patting me on the head and telling me not to worry…at least not in so many words.
It almost sounded as if X understood the consequences of his behavior and the potential consequences to his relationship with the boys. Of course, he promised that it would “never happen again.”
I will give him the benefit of the doubt, but I’m not quite so stupid as to believe that when he has said it to me for so long about so many things. Things which did indeed happen again. And again.
Still, it adds to the relief of having this thing done.
I took the opportunity to press him on the date that he would come and get his crap out of the house. He claims that Oct 28 is the day. We’ll see.
Since this meeting fulfilled what I asked in the divorce agreement, I told him that the boys could stay over tomorrow night since it is not a school night (no school in MN this Thurs and Fri.) I think he was a little surprised that I would be that “flexible.” Whatever. When it comes down to it, I’m not the giant she-devil-beeatch that he thinks I am. Or that the counselor thinks I am.
Oh! I’m also proud to note that I said this:
In addition, I want X to be intentional when he is having sex, either by himself or with another person someday, that it not be just in the next room from the boys without the benefit of the door at least being closed.
He didn’t let on to the counselor, but I think he knew what I was talking about.
I phrased the whole meeting and requirement as being overt and ‘on record’ in my expectations about how the boys are NOT to be exposed to sex, pornography and violence. Not in order to restrict X, but because the boys are not emotionally, psychologically or developmentally ready to be exposed to that kind of material.
Smirky McCounselor didn’t disagree at least. He did of course point out that no matter how much we have or will protect them that they will be exposed to some of this at friends’ houses.
Well, no shit, dumb-ass. Still doesn’t mean they need to see their father wanking off to hard-core. In my humble and uneducated opinion.
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A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
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Friday Randomness 2008
3rd day 2007
Oh the humanity! 2007
Inner Dialog 2006
the paradox of chaplaincy 2006
Beginning of the end 2005
— — —
A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
-
Friday Randomness 2008
3rd day 2007
Oh the humanity! 2007
Inner Dialog 2006
the paradox of chaplaincy 2006
Beginning of the end 2005
— — —
A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
-
Friday Randomness 2008
3rd day 2007
Oh the humanity! 2007
Inner Dialog 2006
the paradox of chaplaincy 2006
Beginning of the end 2005
December 31st, 2006 at 11:21 am
holy shit. I never understood the circumstances in which you were under. that really sucks, Becky. I am, however, overjoyed that you are no longer with him and that the kids can still have somewhat of a good relationship with their dad if he continues to “behave” well. I just don’t know what else to say, other than that you are a strong woman. Such a strong woman to be able to take matters into your own hands for the sake of yourself and your children. I am so proud of you!
Tue Oct 17, 08:26:00 PM 2006