hello?
I’m getting ready for another first date. I think this is #15 since I started back into this nonsense. Oh, match.com, are you going to prove yourself worth my hard-earned dollars or am I going to return home in a few hours ready to fill my spare time this summer with painting the house and digging a backyard fish pond?
Update: Taupe or Sand for the dining room?
For the record, he didn’t even show up. He sent an email at 6:29. One hour before the 7:30 reservation. A time he suggested.
Subject: RE: Re: RE: sounds fun! If you want call me at 612-xxx-5858
Kxxxx
So, at 7:40 I called him. My cell fritzed out and it said “connected” but I couldn’t hear anything. So, when he didn’t try me back, I tried again at 7:45. He said he was about 20 minutes away. I said I would be happy to wait ( had an outside table, what the heck.) Then he asked for directions. And I ended up giving him directions 3 times. He said if he had any more questions he’d call the restaurant. I hung up at 7:50. I ordered a glass of house wine and they also brought me some bread. I enjoyed the weather and Sinatra. The wait and bus staff were very attentive.
I waited 20 minutes. I declined a 2nd glass of wine. Then I waited 20 more. Then I asked for my check. The (hot Italian) waiter comped my wine. I thanked him, wished him a good evening and left.
Observations:
- He had to have known before 7:50 that he didn’t know where a restaurant was that he was supposed to be at at 7:30.
- His email did not say “gee, I might be running late” or “I hope you get this because I lost your email with the address of the restaurant and now I don’t know where I’m going!”
- He never appologized for being late…not even a cursory “Oh, gosh, I’m sorry I’m running so late.”
- 20 minutes from “south Minneapolis” meant he was starting from home, in all likelihood.
- When I gave him the option of rescheduling, he should have taken it.
Learnings/resolutions:
- I won’t wait more than 30 minutes from the scheduled start time of the date.
- A man who won’t take the 5 minutes to look up a restaurant on Mapquest (when I gave him the address and the name of the restaurant a week ago) is not organized or considerate enough to be with me.
Others I should consider?
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A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
June 14th, 2007 at 10:41 am
Grrr!
I would be soooooo tempted to write him a feedback/evaluation sheet, listing all his faux pas, with a header like ‘Things You Might Want to Change in Order to Enjoy More Success on Match.com’ .
Since few people seem willing to learn from their mistakes, though, you’d probably just be wasting more of your own time. *sigh*
June 14th, 2007 at 10:08 pm
What a tool.
At my job, if an interviewee is twenty minutes late without a really good reason, I won’t even see them.
This dude did SO many things wrong, I’d just thank my lucky stars that you found them all out at once, instead of having them trickle out over four or five dates.
I’d take a bucket o’ loser up front, instead of teaspoon of loser for a few weeks.
You know?
I don’t really know what Taupe is. Maggie has tried to explain it to me, but I keep forgetting. So, um. I’d go with Taupe, because it was important enough that Maggie tried to explain it to me, so it must be a nice color.
June 14th, 2007 at 11:03 pm
LOSER!!!!!!!!!!!
June 14th, 2007 at 11:57 pm
How rude. I don’t get why someone would do that? That is exactly why I could never do the on-line dating thing. I’m too much of a baby to be able to handle that situation. You did it with so much grace.
July 10th, 2007 at 2:35 pm
I SO don’t want to go back into dating. Ugh.
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