little intimacies
the start of the day
- getting ready for work
- eating breakfast
- packing lunches
These little acts can be surprisingly as intimate as making love, speaking beyond the boundary of lover, somehow. Don’t you think?
It’s probably why most dates that end with physical intimacy don’t ’stay over.’
That’s my guess.
Am I right? What do you think?
I’m realizing that probably what I miss almost as much as physical intimacy (a.k.a. SEX) is that easy intimacy of the morning routine. Of course that’s an idealized morning routine, where no one is late, or crabby, or forgot to pick up the dry cleaning. That morning routine somewhere between ‘just dating’ and ‘real life’ where both people are still on their company manners or are maybe in the warm after-glow of really good morning sex. That morning routine where ‘what do you like?’ is answered with ‘toast’ or ‘cereal’ and not, um, something else.
So what do you think? Is that morning dance as intimate as naked mambo?
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A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
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Spamalot! or Living a dream. 2007
day 3 without boys 2006
what a slug I am! 2006
night off 2006
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A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
-
Spamalot! or Living a dream. 2007
day 3 without boys 2006
what a slug I am! 2006
night off 2006
— — —
A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
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Spamalot! or Living a dream. 2007
day 3 without boys 2006
what a slug I am! 2006
night off 2006
August 9th, 2007 at 10:22 am
Life is full of surprisingly intimate moments if you look for them and not necessarily physical. Living alone, I miss those moments the embrace, the kiss for no reason, praying together, hellos, goodbyes, etc…. I was surprised the other day when J (the new man in my life?) dropped by my house for morning coffee before work …your post reminded me that was an intimate moment! I was in a hurry, had a new suit on and was sick as a dog vomiting…. It’s been 15 years alone now and I still miss him.
August 9th, 2007 at 8:43 pm
I think you need both to make it work.
August 10th, 2007 at 5:10 pm
Not here it doesn’t. We work different hours and he is usually gone by the time I get up. I guess it would be if we had the same schedule. It works for us though. It’s more likely to be intimate in the evening when I am getting dinner ready for us or when we have a quiet night at home.