Holy Moly Rocky. It’s time
I’ve read and re-read yesterday’s post. And a few others. And done some thinking.
I guess you know it’s time to introduce him to other people in your life when you can’t remember why you weren’t. Right?
I’ve avoided the conversation with the boys for a year now. Although I’m pretty sure they’re not stupid and I’ve had enough cell phone conversations just out of ear-shot for them to have figured something was up, if they ever thought about it. Probably they are far far less worried about this than I think they are….and will be far far less upset about it than I think they will be. Until things get rocky of course. I’d like to suppose they’d notice when their mother is all broken hearted again. Not that it’s their responsibility to monitor that or anything.
I feel like I should introduce the idea of me dating to them not in the very same moment they meet someone I’m dating. So I think I’ll bring it up casually sometime. (Ha! casually! Like the sex talk!) Also, it’s time for me to put on my big girl panties and bring the topic up with my Mom and sister, too. Even though it’s clear they don’t give a damn about what’s going on in my life.
Maybe part of the healing I need is to demand what I need from those relationships too? (PFFT. Who am I kidding?) But, I’ll put the dating thing out there and they’ll just have to deal with it. I think I’ll probably be sending a little note to the extended family too. Something along the lines of “It has recently come to my attention that you may not be aware that X and I were divorced in October of 2006….”
Should make for an interesting Thanksgiving anyway.
Any suggestions are appreciated for any of these conversations, but especially the ones with the boys, are appreciated.
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A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
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What a day 2006
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A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
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What a day 2006
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A year ago (or longer) on This Journey…
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What a day 2006
October 2nd, 2007 at 1:15 pm
I’ve been divorced for many years, so my situation is totally different.
I’m a very open person and my girls know that I try (not very successfully) to date. I think it’s easier when they’re older because they want to date, and so they don’t ask you why they aren’t enough and why you want a man anyway.
I have allways found that honesty and openness work best with tricky issues and my kids.
October 2nd, 2007 at 3:21 pm
Just be open and honest…
You know I have been seeing some one…
I’d like you to meet him…
And I’m going to invite him to Thanksgiving dinner/weekend
October 2nd, 2007 at 4:18 pm
Go slow.
October 2nd, 2007 at 6:11 pm
Just casually bring it up with the boys. Somthing like, “Hey, how would you feel if mommy had a special friend?” See how they react to that first. Take your cues from that. Good luck! Happy dating.
October 2nd, 2007 at 8:20 pm
I have no suggestions, friend, other than:
“Too thine own self, be true.”
Good luck. It’ll all work out fine.